T100 parent-child children's clothing: parent-child education - love children \ to be a 70-point lazy parents

T100 parent-child children's clothing: parent-child education - love children \ to be a 70-point lazy parents

1. Is it a mistake to do your best?

Since my daughter's birth, I have started a new "work" like most mothers: reading a variety of parenting books, marking them with red strokes in certain places; carefully following childcare recipes carefully for their daughters Prepare food that is both scientific and delicious; watch the weather forecast on time, add or subtract her clothes; when she is a little older, tell her one story after another every night until she sleeps peacefully; when she gets older, she picks up her Go to kindergarten...

A woman who has a child will save all her time and put all her energy into her child.

When she took her daughter to eat McDonald's at once, she slobbered. I watched as she hoped that she would actively "reward" a piece of chicken to her hard-working mother. But she ate nothing but peace of mind. She had only delicious burgers and chicken legs in her eyes and mouth. . Look around again, one family, eat mostly children, mostly parents, those parents calm, without complaint, what else can I have? The husband was right. In China, parents are reluctant to take a taxi when they go out to work, but as long as they go out with their children, they will even play in the near future.

If the perfect score is 100 points, then the Chinese parents will surely strive toward full marks, advance, and even hope to create a record of 101 points. Can parents pay 100 points to receive 100 points in their children? Obviously not. Observing the surrounding parents, they gave the children food and feeding. They did not expect to develop the habit of the little guy being too lazy or even too lazy to chew. Because the parents were too careful, the children cried and cried when they were unhappy; Because everything is considered for the child, he will expect his parents in the event of a mishap; because the parents were the closest playmates of the child since childhood, he gradually became selfish, timid, overbearing, and not gregarious....

Is this what 100 children have been educated by their parents?

Until one day, I noticed a young boy who had come back from Australia in the community. He was the same age as his daughter and he was always playing alone in the yard. He was tired of saying hello to his parents and ran out to find a partner and hungry. I ran back and ate and sang and sang songs every night. I never wanted to be with me.

When I look at my daughter, I can only play up to 40 points. I began to wonder if it was a mistake to try my best. Instead of being a 100-point parent, it's better to be a 70-point lazy parent!

2, parents also need to care

Looking at the restaurant as a matter of course, eating a special child alone, I would think, he knows his parents' pains? Looking at a child comfortably sitting in a taxi, I would also like to think that he knows the hard work of parents commuting to and from the bus every day? I want my daughter to know the joys and sorrows of her parents, know the hardships and illnesses of her parents, and know that parents need to care.

Therefore, if I have a headache and a fever, I will let my daughter send water and eat it. If I suffer from back pain, I will announce that my daughter will massage me for a few massages. Even if she does nothing, she will keep her eyes open. At my side, at the very least, it also made me feel her small concerns and concerns, which are more effective than those drugs!

I also don't do my mother's dedication. I often laze. On the morning of the weekend, it must be a time of lateness. If my daughter gets up early, I'm sorry to have breakfast. Occasionally, my daughter wants to participate in an activity on the weekend. I need to get up early to send it. I will pat her head and say something “grumbling”: “Oh, for your sake, my mother sleeps a little less.” Daughter, I will answer with a sensible answer: "Then I will give you the best candy for you. Thank you mom." No parent cares about the child's return, but let the child know that the parents can't pay for it. Taken for granted.

3, let the children find their own playmates

Let her daughter find a playmate herself. There are many children in the community. I describe to my daughter beautiful scenes outside, such as green grass, cheerful children, various games, etc. These can evoke her daughter’s interest and dispel her vigilance for strange children. When the daughter meets with other children, I usually sit sideways and will not play with her. I told her: “Mom is tired and wants to rest. You can play it yourself.” The daughter can only play with her children. Come into it soon.

If there is any contradiction with the children, I don’t care. Let her solve it. Otherwise, the game will not be able to be played. The little ones will gradually learn to think of ways, such as talking to the children about the conditions, and you will contribute the rag dolls. Then I took out the sandbag and the two children were happy. Invisible, the selfish children learned to share.

4. Mom is not a full-time babysitter

A 70-point parent must be a "lazy" parent. In fact, "lazy" mothers are more diligent and hard-working than "difficult" mothers. Allowing children to do things on their own can, in many cases, not only reduce labor costs but also make them more troublesome because children tend to “help”. Before implementing the lazy mother plan, plan ahead. For example, to allow children to share their beds with grown-ups, they should be given more quilt cover at night; the children themselves will eat and start to scatter everywhere, so much more laundry, table wiping, and mopping the floor; the children themselves will surely do a bath. "Shuiman Jinshan", I have to "treat the water"...

First transform her daughter from dinner. Simply telling her daughter to eat, then picking up their own meals. Our daughter did not see us helping her with a good meal as she had done in the past. I said to her, "You are 4 years old and you should have your own meal and dinner. Come, my mother will give you a meal. You see how my mother did it. Next time I do it." In my demonstration, my daughter learned It didn't take long for rice to cook, and we didn't have to worry about her dining anymore. It was our own thing to eat. Mom and Dad wouldn’t manage her.

On the morning of the weekend, I don't want to get up early and say to my daughter that Mom wants to sleep for a while. You can eat yogurt and bread in the refrigerator to eat. The daughter not only finished eating but also gave me a copy. It seems that the more you don’t pay for your child, the more rewards your child will have, and sometimes it will be lazy and the child will grow faster! I consulted a friend who was a pediatrician, and then decided to start cultivating her daughter's dressing problem: I handed over to her the task of insisting on watching the weather forecast, allowing her to add or subtract her own clothes according to the weather.

Her daughter's sleep is also one of our biggest headaches. At the age of 4 she had been sleeping with us and told stories every night. Now, I have arranged a warm bedroom that she likes. She can read the storybook or listen to the tape to fall asleep.

The daughter became a small star in the kindergarten. The teacher's evaluation is self-care ability. I was invited to teach education in kindergarten and sum up my daughter's “achievements”: 1 year and 4 months old, I ate myself; at the age of 2 I sent her to nursery school day care classes and did not take home at noon; when I was 2 and a half years old, I would Let her brush her teeth, wash her face, and wash her feet; when she is 3 years old, she will be allowed to dress, undress, tie her shoes, and wash her hands; when she is 4 years old, she will be allowed to sleep alone in a room and she will fold her quilt in the morning; At one point, when the child falls, the parent doesn't need to help her and let her stand up. She can also let her children participate in the housework...

The parents present were surprised. Some mothers even thought that I was an incompetent mother. I smiled and said: "I can't give myself a score of 100 points. It's the children's own thing. The mother is not a full-time nanny!

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